I think it is important to provide an update on my improved lifestyle accomplishments to date:
I have lost eight pounds but am only down three... Exercise is going very well, I am doing yoga twice a week, weights three times a week and walking daily. My trainer continues to encourage me although when the temperature dipped into the -20's Friday and Saturday I had to say no! Brown eyes or no brown eyes, it was reported on the news that any more than 5 minutes outside could result in frostbite (there was mention of not wearing protective clothing, but why risk it). I walk on two legs and he walks on four therefore I had to take matters into my own hands.
Sunday morning I had made plans with Mark (husband) to go ice fishing. There had been a rumor of a warm up, unfortunately when I checked the temp yesterday at 5AM it was -15 with a colder wind chill. I really didn't want to go, I considered just "maning up" (MS Word wants me to use two n's in maning, but I think I have this one right) and heading out when I heard this wise voice in my head, "you don't have to". It was my first NFE (Near Fifty Experience).
I don't know if I can put words to the power that voice had, not just on my morning (saving me from an NFTDE, near freezing to death experience) but the rest of my life. I have toyed with "no" in the past, not for big things, like saying no to my children, but small things like I am not going to work out today. I have decided I can use this word for good.
So far I said No! to watching the football games yesterday. Who won by the way? No! to practicing the guitar (that was an inappropriate use of the word no). I have decided to use No! on anyone who yells at me, whether they can hear me from my car or not. I am getting toold wise to be yelled at and I am not going to tolerate it. If it is possible, I would like to say No! to falling down, now and in the future. It is shocking to fall down and it should be reserved for those who are very young and/or participating in sports.
I have spent much of the past 24 hours really considering how to use this two letter gem going forward and know I must proceed with caution. My plan is to spend the week working with this new tool, measuring the impact it has on relationships, resources and my general well being. All findings will be shared on Monday, January 31st.
I have lost eight pounds but am only down three... Exercise is going very well, I am doing yoga twice a week, weights three times a week and walking daily. My trainer continues to encourage me although when the temperature dipped into the -20's Friday and Saturday I had to say no! Brown eyes or no brown eyes, it was reported on the news that any more than 5 minutes outside could result in frostbite (there was mention of not wearing protective clothing, but why risk it). I walk on two legs and he walks on four therefore I had to take matters into my own hands.
Sunday morning I had made plans with Mark (husband) to go ice fishing. There had been a rumor of a warm up, unfortunately when I checked the temp yesterday at 5AM it was -15 with a colder wind chill. I really didn't want to go, I considered just "maning up" (MS Word wants me to use two n's in maning, but I think I have this one right) and heading out when I heard this wise voice in my head, "you don't have to". It was my first NFE (Near Fifty Experience).
I don't know if I can put words to the power that voice had, not just on my morning (saving me from an NFTDE, near freezing to death experience) but the rest of my life. I have toyed with "no" in the past, not for big things, like saying no to my children, but small things like I am not going to work out today. I have decided I can use this word for good.
So far I said No! to watching the football games yesterday. Who won by the way? No! to practicing the guitar (that was an inappropriate use of the word no). I have decided to use No! on anyone who yells at me, whether they can hear me from my car or not. I am getting to
I have spent much of the past 24 hours really considering how to use this two letter gem going forward and know I must proceed with caution. My plan is to spend the week working with this new tool, measuring the impact it has on relationships, resources and my general well being. All findings will be shared on Monday, January 31st.
My favorite saying as it relates to this "gem" is: what part of the word "no" don't you understand?
ReplyDeleteUnderstanding is one thing, utilization is whole different animal.
ReplyDeleteBe judicious with this power. It's near relative "I don't have to anymore!" led me to divorce. I'm not saying that was a bad thing because it wasn't, but just be aware: this is a awesome new weapon. Just watch a two year old wielding it-- It's so frightening that all the adults around freak out. It takes their combined power to squelch it and even then, they can't hold it down forever. I'm proud, little sister, that it only took you 47 years to get it back; it took me 57. (Of course, everything is harder for the oldest.)
ReplyDeleteI agree with Sandy. It is an awesome power. Keep in mind if you say "no" to things because they are too complicated, is when you start to get old and set in your ways! Be wise wielding this new found power!
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